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Find downloadable reference material designed to give you clear, practical information when you need it. Browse guides, fact sheets and other useful documents covering key topics and common challenges.
CONTEMPORANEOUS FILE NOTES
Contemporaneous file notes are written records made at or around the time an event, conversation or incident occurs. They can be used to accurately document what happened, when it happened, who was involved, and any relevant actions taken. Keeping clear, factual and dated file notes can help create a reliable record for future reference and may be useful when communicating with professionals or providing evidence if required.
STALKING & HARRASSMENT RECORD
A Stalking and Harassment Record is a written record used to document incidents of unwanted contact, intimidation, threats, monitoring, or other harassing behaviour. It can help establish a clear timeline and pattern of behaviour, including dates, times, locations, messages, witnesses and any evidence available. The record may be useful when speaking with police, lawyers, support services or other relevant authorities, particularly if the behaviour continues or escalates.
SAFE WORD AGREEMENT
A Safe Word is a pre-agreed word or phrase that can be used during an argument to signal that it’s time to pause and step away. Choose something unlikely to be said during a disagreement, such as “pineapple,” “unicorn” or “peach.” If you forget the agreed word, simply saying “Safe Word” can also be used.
Once discussed and agreed on, a Safe Word Agreement can be created, as per the example below. This can help both parties take responsibility for their actions, respect agreed boundaries and remain accountable during difficult situations.
MTB FLYER
Use this flyer to help raise awareness of the challenges men face in relationships, family separation and being on the receiving end of domestic and family violence.
REAL LIFE STORIES
The following stories combine the real-life experiences of various anonymous individuals who have shared their life events with us. We have not identified any real person in any one story. All stories and examples of behaviour are the true-life experiences of the men with whom we spoke.