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About Mens Toolbox

Supporting men through relationship challenges, family separation and surviving domestic violence

‘We are passionate about making a difference’

Violence is not gendered.  Women and men are abusers, yet men are generally nominated as the perpetrator and women are generally nominated as the victim/survivor. This results in no or limited services for men.  Men report feeling underrepresented, misrepresented and alone in relationship matters.  If society continues to treat these matters as gendered issues, it only increases the divide, creating more problems and solves nothing. If we want a different outcome, we need to do something different.

WHY?

In Australia, men report feeling underrepresented/misrepresented and as a result, suffer in silence. One man takes his own life every 3.42 hours & 000 responds to one man every hour!  [ABS, 2022]

The Facts for Men in Australia

  • The median age for marriage is 32.5 [ABS,2022].
  • The median age of having first child 33.7 [ABS,2022].
  • The median age of separation 41 [ABS.2022].
  • The median age of divorce 45.9 [ABS.2022].
  • The median age of death by suicide 46 [ABS.2022].

The Top Three Contributing Factors to Male Suicide in Australia

  1. The disruption of family by separation or divorce [ABS,2022].
  2. Problems in relationship with spouse or partner [ABS,2022].
  3. Problems related to legal matters e.g.; child support, family court proceedings and domestic/family violence [ABS,2022].

Men and women have different experiences in relationships and family separation 

  • Men and women generally have different stress responses.
  • Men and women generally have different communication styles.
  • Men and women generally have different listening styles.
  • Men and women are biologically different – this is hardwired.

Our experience and research in-house over the last 5 years

  • Over 90% of past and present clients report preferring not to discuss their troubles with family or friends.
  • Over 90% of past and present clients report a preference to talk to a counsellor/psychologist as they feel less judged and are reassured by confidentiality.
  • Men report feeling more comfortable talking about the problem with the focus on working towards a solution and less comfortable talking about their emotions.

WHAT?

We provide tailored resources, support services and products to men who may be having a difficult time in a relationship or family separation.

  • Our Mission:

    is to listen to learn without judgment and believe men when others may not. We treat men like men with a solutions-focused approach.

  • Our Vision:

    is to bridge the gap in support services for men.

  • Our Commitment:

    is to support men through relationship challenges, family separation and domestic violence matters.

HOW?

We provide men with tailored services, products and resources to their unique experiences in relationships, family separation and domestic/family violence, Australia wide.

WHO?

Meet our Founders

Through personal and professional experience, we joined forces in 2018 and Mens Toolbox was born. We are mothers of sons, we have partners, and we support our mates. We stand by our men.

Through personal experience we have watched our men suffer during relationship breakdowns, family separation and as victims of domestic violence. Through professional experience we recognise that men are not always the perpetrators and can be the victim of domestic and family violence. However, their story is seldom heard and their suffering is rarely acknowledged.

Our aim is to disrupt and unify with the intention of bridging the gap in support services in the knowledge that violence is not defined by gender, but by behaviour. In the current cultural and political environment support services are skewed towards women. To bring the pendulum back to centre; our focus must be on the male experience in relationship. Our hope is that ultimately products and services around relationship breakdowns, family separation and domestic and family violence will be focused on behaviour and not gender. Men are not always the perpetrator.

We are Renea Jury and Chris Richardson and our passion is providing support for men who are going through tough times.

Please note, we are not a crisis support service.  If your matter requires crisis support, please contact Lifeline Australia – 13 11 14 – Crisis Support. Suicide Prevention.  If life is in danger, call 000 immediately.

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