Domestic Violence – The Honeymoon Phase

When we think of domestic violence, the image that often comes to mind is that of a woman as the victim and a man as the perpetrator. However, it is crucial to recognise that men can also be victims of domestic violence, and they too can experience the intricate dynamics of the cycle of violence, including the honeymoon phase.

The cycle of violence is a pattern that can occur in abusive relationships, characterised by four distinct phases: the tension-building phase, the abusive incident, the honeymoon phase and denial. In the honeymoon phase, the abuser may apologise, show remorse, and exhibit loving behaviour towards the victim in an attempt to reconcile and maintain control over the relationship.

For men who are victims of domestic violence, the honeymoon phase can be particularly confusing and challenging. The abuser’s sudden change in behaviour, from being aggressive and violent to being loving and remorseful, can create a sense of hope for the victim that the abuse will stop and the relationship will improve. This emotional rollercoaster can leave the victim feeling conflicted and unsure about how to proceed.

During the honeymoon phase, the abuser may shower the victim with attention, affection, and gifts as a way to manipulate and control them. This can make it even more difficult for the victim to leave the relationship, as they may feel guilty for wanting to walk away when their partner is being kind and loving towards them.

It’s essential for men who are victims of domestic violence to recognise the cycle of violence and understand that the honeymoon phase is not a true indicator of change or improvement in the relationship. Seeking support from friends, family, or a professional counsellor can help victims navigate the complexities of the cycle of violence and make informed decisions about their safety and well-being.

Breaking the cycle of violence requires resilience, support, and a commitment to prioritising one’s own safety and happiness. Men who are victims of domestic violence deserve to be heard, believed, and supported as they navigate their way out of abusive relationships and towards a future free from violence.

The honeymoon phase in the cycle of violence can be a challenging and deceptive period for men who are victims of domestic violence. By understanding the dynamics of the cycle of violence and seeking support, men can empower themselves to break free from abusive relationships and build a life based on respect, equality, and safety.

Check out our other blogs for further information, or you may be interested in completing our course on Domestic Violence. Alternatively, you may wish to speak with one of our consultants to learn more about how we can support you.