What Are Your Kids Watching? Are You Leading by Example with Your Children? (Part 1)

Parenting is arguably one of the most challenging and rewarding roles we can undertake. Every action, word, and decision we make shapes our children’s understanding of the world and influences their future behaviour. At the heart of effective parenting is the question: Are you leading by example? Specifically, are the behaviours you model in your daily life aligning with the values and principles you wish to instil in your children?

In this blog, we will explore the importance of leading by example, what children observe and internalise from their parents, and a particularly delicate topic – staying in unhealthy relationships for the sake of the kids. We will examine how these choices impact children’s development and what parents can do to foster healthy and respectful environments for their children to thrive.

The Power of Leading by Example

Children are perceptive observers. They learn more from what they see us do than from what we tell them. The adage “actions speak louder than words” holds especially true in parenting. When children witness their parents’ demonstrating kindness, resilience, honesty, and respect, they are more likely to emulate these qualities.

Conversely, if children observe behaviours such as dishonesty, anger, neglect, or unhealthy relationship dynamics, they may come to see these behaviours as normal or acceptable. This is why self-awareness and intentionality are crucial for parents. Modelling integrity, compassion, patience, and healthy communication sets a foundation for children to develop these traits themselves.

What Are Your Kids Watching?

Children are constantly absorbing cues from their environment. Here are some critical areas where parental behaviour influences children:

• Relationships and Communication: How parents interact with each other and others teaches children about conflict resolution, respect, and emotional regulation.
• Handling Stress and Challenges: Children observe how parents cope with setbacks and stress—do they face difficulties constructively or with negativity?
• Work Ethic and Responsibility: Observing parents’ attitudes toward work, chores, and commitments shapes children’s understanding of responsibility.
• Values and Morals: The principles parents uphold, whether through words or actions, influence children’s moral compass.
• Emotional Expression: Parents who openly express feelings and discuss emotions foster emotional intelligence in their children.

Understanding that kids watch and imitate these behaviours highlights the importance of modelling positive traits consistently.

Ultimately children learn more from what we do than what we say. By modelling healthy behaviours, respectful relationships, and self-awareness, we shape their future. Leading by example creates a foundation of trust, love and integrity thus teaching them how to navigate life with kindness, resilience, and honesty.

NOTE: To read PART 2 of this blog, click HERE