The Invisible Connection – Did you know you are being stalked?

Stalking is a serious and often frightening behaviour that can have significant impacts on the mental and emotional wellbeing of the victim. It is important to recognise the signs of stalking in order to protect oneself and seek help if needed.

Stalking is a pattern of behaviour that involves unwanted attention or harassment towards another person. It can take many forms, including physically following, surveillance, unwanted communication (such as phone calls, texts, emails), and even threats of harm. Stalkers may exhibit a variety of behaviours that are intended to control, intimidate, or intimidate their victims or it could be simply a ploy for your attention. Here are some common behaviours that may indicate stalking:

Persistent unwanted communication: Stalkers may repeatedly call, text, email, or message their victims despite being ignored or asked to stop. They may also send gifts or letters in an attempt to establish contact.

Following or surveillance: Stalkers may physically follow their victims, show up uninvited at their home or workplace, or use technology to track their movements. They may also monitor their victim’s social media accounts or online activity.

Unwanted gifts or gestures: Stalkers may send gifts, or other tokens of affection to their victims in an attempt to intimidate or manipulate them in an effort to maintain connection. These gestures are often unwanted and can be a sign of obsessive behaviour.

Threats of harm: Some stalkers may make threats of violence or harm towards their victims or their loved ones or threaten to harm themselves. These threats can be explicit or implicit and should always be taken seriously.

Manipulative behaviour: Stalkers may use manipulative tactics to control their victims, such as guilt-tripping, gaslighting, or playing mind games. They may also try to isolate their victims from friends and family in order to exert more control over them.

Violating boundaries: Stalkers often ignore the boundaries and personal space of their victims. They may show up unannounced, invade their privacy, or engage in other intrusive behaviours such as contacting friends and family of the victim or developing relationships with the victim’s acquaintances or work colleagues.

It is important to remember that stalking is a serious crime and should not be taken lightly. If you believe you are being stalked or harassed, it is important to reach out for help. Contact law enforcement, a trusted friend or family member, or a local support organisation for assistance and guidance on how to protect yourself. Remember, you are not alone, and there are resources available to help you stay safe and secure.

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